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My First Million

My First Million

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Build trust and gather proprietary information before making any deal proposals

Business executives, entrepreneurs, and anyone in high-stakes negotiations

Single meeting to multiple sessions

What Success Looks Like

The other party voluntarily shares information they normally wouldn't reveal, both parties understand the real constraints and opportunities, and the eventual deal is better than either could have imagined initially

Steps to Execute

1

Prepare by identifying negatives they likely harbor about you

2

Open by addressing those negatives directly and honestly

3

Show genuine appreciation for their position and expertise

4

Use labels and observations to gather information instead of questions

5

Let them talk 70-80% of the time

6

Only discuss deal terms after mutual understanding is established

Checklist

Have I identified what they might think is negative about me?
Have I prepared genuine appreciation points about their situation?
Am I using tactical empathy rather than trying to make my case?
Am I gathering information about their real constraints?
Do they feel heard and understood before we discuss terms?
Have I removed myself as a threat?

Inputs Needed

  • Basic research on the other party
  • Understanding of your own potential negative perceptions
  • Genuine curiosity about their situation
  • Patience to let the process unfold
  • Specific appreciation points you can authentically make

Outputs

  • Proprietary information about their real constraints
  • Understanding of their true priorities vs stated positions
  • Trust foundation for ongoing relationship
  • Better deal terms than initially possible
  • Framework for handling future implementation challenges

Example

A startup CEO meeting with a potential acquisition target. Instead of leading with valuation, they first acknowledge: 'You probably think I'm just another buyer trying to lowball you and strip away what makes your company special.' Then they show genuine appreciation: 'What you've built in this niche is remarkable - most people don't realize the technical complexity involved.' This approach leads the founder to share real concerns about valuation timing and team retention.